“You’re too cocky”
I genuinely believe the line between cocky and confident is very thin and blurry. The slightest comment that you make to uplift yourself is automatically met with hostility. When people call me “cocky” I become very wary because I feel that there is a reason they don’t want me to be confident and they would rather project their insecurities onto me. It really irks me when these types of comments are made.
Crabs in a barrel pull each other down. However, this behaviour isn’t unique to crabs. It can be found in all the social circles you find yourself in. Be cautious of what type of behaviour is met with your confidence. If it is positive then those are the people who do not feel threatened by your confidence and are confident in themselves, and these are the types of people you want to spend your time with. On the other hand, if you are with people where your confidence is met with negative backlash then spend as little time as possible with them.
It is important for you to spend as little time as possible with the people of a negative nature. This is because eventually they will make you as insecure as they are, by making your confidence seem unwarranted, and alien. Birds of a feather flock together, those aren’t the types of people you want to turn into.
I always felt that people who questioned my confidence in any scenario were doing so in spite. As if to say, ‘look at you, you shouldn’t be confident’, when someone says ‘you’re too cocky’, its subjective. To someone who has a lot of confidence it may seem very minor, however to someone whose very insecure it may seem very alien to them that you would view yourself in a positive manner, and this is very sad that there are people like this.
Life is too short to not believe in yourself and your abilities. Self-confidence is needed in order to carry yourself throughout life in any situation you find yourself in. People will take advantage otherwise.